Serving Manhattan, Westchester, Hudson Valley, NY, NJ, CT
So you recently got engaged and need a wedding officiant. I really enjoy working with couples—it’s not solely about creating a great ceremony but about working with a loving couple towards building a lasting relationship.
I take time to get to know and understand the couples I work with. That way, I’m able to give your relationship and your love a voice to those with whom you intend to share this special moment in your lives.
As a liberal Jewish ordained Cantor, I conduct a Jewish influenced wedding ceremony and perform pre-marital counseling. I work with interfaith and same-sex couples. I like to incorporate the culture from both sides of your family and make sure that all of your family and guests feel comfortable and included. Should we speak or sing any Hebrew, it will always be translated. Your wedding ceremony will feel personal and unique.
Your wedding is not about the band, the florist, the photographer, or even the officiant.
It’s about you.
Cantor Erik Contzius
Ordained Wedding OfficiantI was ordained at the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in 1995. Since then, I’ve served congregations in Omaha, Philadelphia, and Westchester County, NY. After a fulfilling 18 year career caring for my congregational families, I decided to step off the pulpit to give more attention to my own family. But I still find opportunities for the gratifying work of working with couples on their wedding day.
Before we work together, you’ll want to do a few things…
1) Get The New Jewish Wedding by Anita Diamant.
Whether you’ve attended many Jewish weddings or none at all, this invaluable resource will be great to help plan and shape your special day. Consider it mandatory reading.
2) Get Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix.
You care enough to craft the perfect Wedding Day, but what’s much more important is the work needed to have a fulfilling Married Life. This book is an invaluable resource for all couples.
3) I do not officiate at any ceremonies without getting to know my couples. I require several sessions of pre-marital counseling using Prepare-Enrich. It is a relationship assessment tool that has been a wonderful reflection piece for all the couples I’ve had the honor of marrying.
WOW! What an amazing job you did this weekend. Thank you so much!
We loved the ceremony and have heard raves about you from our guests. The ceremony was the perfect start to our night and our marriage. Humor was important for our wedding and is important in our relationship and you provided laughs without distracting from the meaning of the day. Moreover, you personalized the ceremony such that we, as well as our guests, felt like we weren’t just getting married but commemorating a new step in our relationship. We also wanted you to know how much we appreciated all the little helpful directions both before and during the ceremony. Additionally, so many of our guests used the phrase “amazing voice” when talking about your officiating the service. As you know, music is important to our family, so it was wonderful to have such a melodious service. Overall, the service struck the right tone and we are deeply thankful to you for that.A.W. & J.O.W.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you officiate at interfaith ceremonies?
Do you co-officiate at multi-faith ceremonies?
Not yet. My expertise is in providing couples a Jewish-influenced ceremony officiated by a sole officiant, but my positions are evolving. Let’s start a conversation.
We are very ambivalent about religion/God. Can you help us with our wedding?
Yes! You as a couple are not the sum total of your upbringing—you are about your experiences, your evolved values, your interests… let’s start a conversation!
Do you officiate at LGBTQ ceremonies?
What are your fees?
We have a special situation. Can you accommodate us?
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