BlogThoughts about weddings, marriage, and more
You just got engaged. Congratulations! Now it’s time to pick a date for your Big Day. You look at the calendar, talk to family and friends, and call catering halls, venues… and it looks like the best time to get married for you both is a Friday evening or a Saturday during the day. You and your partner are not that traditional, so getting married on the Jewish Sabbath doesn’t seem like that big a deal. But are there things you should think about before getting married on Shabbat?
Whether you’re having a wedding ceremony completely in English, including different languages, special religious rites, or some newly invented rituals, having an awesome wedding program for your guests will help everyone present feel included. Here’s some suggestions to make that memorable program.
I hear from couples all the time, “Cantor, we’ve never done this before…” Of course! Unless you’ve been through planning a wedding before, there is no experience from which to draw when it comes to so many details involved with the rites and rituals of a wedding. Nowhere is this more potentially confusing is when shopping for a ketubah. With so many choices between artists and texts, it can be confusing. Let’s do a deep dive and see what you need to know about shopping for a ketubah.
As a clergy person, I’m an Agent of the State, and have to make sure I act accordingly as to not break any laws, or inadvertently cause a couple to be in a problem situation. So let’s look at what clergy in New York State are able—and not able—to do for couples.
You’ve popped the question, said, “I do,” and shared with friends and family. And now, you’re faced with a barrage of decisions: When to hold the wedding, where to have the party, who will be the photographer… and of course, who will preside over the wedding service. You want the day or evening to go just right… so how do you decide on a wedding officiant that will be just right for the two of you?
When we see a happy couple together in love, it gives us hope that there can be a brighter tomorrow. So why do we typically label a couple from disparate religious upbringings as “interfaith” and their marriage as “intermarriage”?