BlogThoughts about weddings, marriage, and more
I hear from couples all the time, “Cantor, we’ve never done this before…” Of course! Unless you’ve been through planning a wedding before, there is no experience from which to draw when it comes to so many details involved with the rites and rituals of a wedding. Nowhere is this more potentially confusing is when shopping for a ketubah. With so many choices between artists and texts, it can be confusing. Let’s do a deep dive and see what you need to know about shopping for a ketubah.
As a clergy person, I’m an Agent of the State, and have to make sure I act accordingly as to not break any laws, or inadvertently cause a couple to be in a problem situation. So let’s look at what clergy in New York State are able—and not able—to do for couples.
You’ve popped the question, said, “I do,” and shared with friends and family. And now, you’re faced with a barrage of decisions: When to hold the wedding, where to have the party, who will be the photographer… and of course, who will preside over the wedding service. You want the day or evening to go just right… so how do you decide on a wedding officiant that will be just right for the two of you?
When we see a happy couple together in love, it gives us hope that there can be a brighter tomorrow. So why do we typically label a couple from disparate religious upbringings as “interfaith” and their marriage as “intermarriage”?