BlogThoughts about weddings, marriage, and more
Adam Sandler has something to teach couples about Idyllic Distortion with some hard truths.
Thanks to the many couples I’ve worked with (and thank you! It was a pleasure working with you all!), I’m happy to report that I’ve received The Knot’s 2019 “Best of Weddings” recognition.
I first heard from Jessica and Conor over a year ago. They were (and are!) a very enthusiastic couple, and right off the bat, I knew I was going to enjoy working with them. To begin, their relationship is one beyond simple partnership. They have a dynamism that’s full of energy. They are competitive—especially Jessica! They both complement each other and at the same time feed off of each other’s zeal for life and adventure.
Before you say, “I do,” have a list of things to say “I do” to! Let’s get creative and write your own vows.
Couples looking for a Jewish wedding officiant are most likely looking for a rabbi. But ordained Cantors are just as capable of working with wedding couples and marrying them—plus, we sing! So what exactly the difference between a Rabbi and a Cantor?
When I first start working with a couple towards their Big Day, I do so with an eye towards getting to know the couple really well, so they’re assured that a stranger won’t be officiating at their ceremony. Over weeks, or more often months, I do a lot of pre-marital work, which is mostly about preparing for their married life—working on communication skills, conflict resolution… but of course, most couples come to me to craft the perfect wedding ceremony. Here’s the parts of the ceremonies I write.
Whether you’re two traditional Jews, are more Jew-“ish” than Jewish, or a couple from different faith traditions, if you’re reading this blog, you probably want to know a bit more about some of the more common Jewish Wedding Traditions because you want to see how they’ll fit into your wedding ceremony. As a Reform Jew, I like to say I’m an “Informed” Jew, and I love to teach couples about the meanings, origins, and reasons to include (or exclude) rituals in your Big Day. Here are five of the most common Jewish Wedding Traditions and how they might enrich your wedding day.
Every year on the Fourth of July, Bruce and Maria have a huge picnic and party at their home in Westchester, New York. They rent tents, have a huge cook-out, there’s music, the whole nine yards. Since their closest friends and family were going to be there anyway, they wanted to surprise their guests…
You just got engaged. Congratulations! Now it’s time to pick a date for your Big Day. You look at the calendar, talk to family and friends, and call catering halls, venues… and it looks like the best time to get married for you both is a Friday evening or a Saturday during the day. You and your partner are not that traditional, so getting married on the Jewish Sabbath doesn’t seem like that big a deal. But are there things you should think about before getting married on Shabbat?
Whether you’re having a wedding ceremony completely in English, including different languages, special religious rites, or some newly invented rituals, having an awesome wedding program for your guests will help everyone present feel included. Here’s some suggestions to make that memorable program.
I hear from couples all the time, “Cantor, we’ve never done this before…” Of course! Unless you’ve been through planning a wedding before, there is no experience from which to draw when it comes to so many details involved with the rites and rituals of a wedding. Nowhere is this more potentially confusing is when shopping for a ketubah. With so many choices between artists and texts, it can be confusing. Let’s do a deep dive and see what you need to know about shopping for a ketubah.
As a clergy person, I’m an Agent of the State, and have to make sure I act accordingly as to not break any laws, or inadvertently cause a couple to be in a problem situation. So let’s look at what clergy in New York State are able—and not able—to do for couples.
You’ve popped the question, said, “I do,” and shared with friends and family. And now, you’re faced with a barrage of decisions: When to hold the wedding, where to have the party, who will be the photographer… and of course, who will preside over the wedding service. You want the day or evening to go just right… so how do you decide on a wedding officiant that will be just right for the two of you?
When we see a happy couple together in love, it gives us hope that there can be a brighter tomorrow. So why do we typically label a couple from disparate religious upbringings as “interfaith” and their marriage as “intermarriage”?